Letting go of the ‘shoulds’

Life is full of ‘shoulds’. From what you should be eating and drinking to the exercise you should be getting; the deals you should be getting on your utilities or insurances, to the charities you should be donating to… Should, should , should. When you become a parent a whole new deluge of shoulds descends. Not only should you be doing this, that and the other to ensure that your offspring will grow up to be the next Einstein, Van Gogh, Beckham or Mozart but they should also be fitting into complicated schedules and hitting milestone after milestone. Read more

Challenges always result in learning

1440447781788I’m still here blogging, this is the 6th consecutive day of my blogging challenge… woo hoo! It has certainly been a challenge so far but after yesterday’s wobble I’m going to stop over-thinking things and just write what’s on my mind or what we’ve been up to.

I’ve been thinking a lot about what a challenge actually is. There are many things in life that can change you as a person. Some things, such as bereavement or traumas can completely de-rail us, and often we are very different people after. But such life altering events, for me, are not challenges. We have no control over them and are swept along on a tide of emotion. We are not making choices. There are no end results we are trying to achieve other than to stay afloat. Read more